Heavily caffeinated picture taker, procrastinating blogger, and virtual tourist in the world of Second Life.

Yearbook photos and random chatter

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May 092016

For Strawberry Singh’s 9th rezday she is doing a yearbook photo challenge!  Happy Rezday Berry!! She’s three months younger than me. Hard to believe I’ve been wandering around Second Life for nine years now, and despite my aging and increasingly grouchy laptop it’s still just as much fun as ever.  😀


Lately whenever I am logged in as Ravensong I have been sticking to tiny-ish avatars, most recently the unbelievably cute patchwork toy elephant from Abranimations, but I thought I’d be my old self for a few minutes to get a good pic. It was a bit odd to put the regular av form back on, lately I’ve felt a bit disconnected from Ravensong. I’m not sure what it is… though I suspect that part of my reluctance to be in world is that in recent months I’ve had the occasional mildly flirty guys begin to chat with me, and while they’ve all been unfailingly polite for some reason it freaks me out. I do occasionally enjoy having a nice chat, but it still makes me want to log off and hide (or I start talking nonstop about my late husband until my conversation partner finds a reason to dash off.) I’ve no idea why I am this way. Perhaps I associate this account so strongly with the time my hub and I spent in world that I can’t ever consider interacting with someone who might flirt, even in the most innocent fashion. A good friend once told me one of the reasons she chose to avoid human avatars in favor of being a full time tiny was because she had no interest in getting hit on. I suspect that’s what is driving my desire to find cute little avatars. I can log in, talk to my friends if they are on, tend to my landscapes, and all is peaceful.

On the other hand I can’t give up my shopping addiction, so I have been spending far more time in world with my alts, who have no friends beyond my RL connections, and who spend most of their time at shopping events, or standing around the house looking adorable, or trying out dances. 😀 They thought, since this was a yearbook meme, that they’d throw in their go at a fabulous shot, and said they were off to the prom. I hope they don’t stay out too late.




The yearbook pic

Hair: Dura Boys & Girls 48
Skin: League –  Erin Medium
Sweater: Purple Moon Creations
Eyeglasses: K_gs
Eyes: Ikon

The Couple:

Hair: Mina –  Gael
Suit: Deadwool – The Dandy
Skin: Nivaro –  Cunov Summertone
Eyes: Ikon

Hair: Magika – Honey Whiskey
Dress: Candy Doll Lara
Necklace: Maxi Gossamer Alexa black pearl choker
Body: Maitreya Lara
Hands: Slink
Skin: League Isla Medium
Eyes: Ikon

Challenged to dance

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Apr 052016

Sometimes I like to log in and do nothing but watch my avvie dance to the stream.  This week Strawberry Singh asked her readers to film themselves dancing in Second Life for her Monday blog challenge.  I had to try, even if I have never really attempted to edit an SL video clip. This was fun practice! 😀

Do hurry to YouTube and check out Strawberry’s Dancing in Second Life playlist for lots more videos!

Thank you, Berry!


Blueberry – Loud – Jumpsuit & Studded Bra
Ears: K_gs ElvenEars
Hair: Lamb. Nevermind
Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara V3.5
Boots: Candydoll Emillya
Skin: League Isla Medium

Dance  Delightful Entertain23 from Henmations
Music: System of a Down “Psycho”

Video filmed with Fraps

Me? Never! Ever!

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Mar 252016

*blows dust off neglected and nearly forgotten blog…*

Omg, I looked away from my blog feeds for a few days, come back and see that Strawberry Singh posted a Monday meme! ♥!!  You have no idea how much I missed those! And I missed this blog too, even though I have clearly neglected it for several months. Everything was turned upside down shortly after my last posts. The owners of my home sim had to let it go, then I found a new home and spent a couple months helping a friend by landscaping and decorating her meditation park and trying to make it a worthy successor to the old sim, and then I got a new (RL) job that has taken away all the excess free time I used to use hanging around SL. I still haven’t found my balance yet. And I really missed this blog, even if nobody but me looks at it!

I was really excited to see the new challenge, because it gives me a reason to come back here and write something! Yays! So here we are with Berry’s Never Have I Ever Challenge, and my take away from these questions is that I am an anti social recluse who would rather park my avvie in my house and try on different outfits for hours at a time, than go out and be sociable. Oh well. It’s all good! 😀

On to the questions…

  1. Never have I ever had sex, in Second Life. – A couple of times I had persuaded my hub to hop on poseballs to see what the animations would do, but we were never “equipped” so we just clicked through the different poses, got bored, and went back to building stuff. Sometimes I’ve logged a couple of accounts on simultaneously and I sit my avatars on racy furniture for giggles (and because my malt is darn cute and the perfect low maintenance boyfriend, lol) I suppose this is kind of like how you  can direct your Sims characters to make out and woohoo, and I suppose technically it counts, though I’m sure it’s not what people seem to mean if they talk about having sex in SL. If we mean an intentional encounter with another person, where you do text and emotes, then no, I have never done that.
  2. Never have I ever visited a sex sim, in Second Life. – Not that I’m aware of.
  3. Never have I ever been an escort or stripper, in Second Life. – Never to either.
  4. Never have I ever been in porn videos in Second Life. – Never lol.
  5. Never have I ever done things that may be illegal in the real world, in Second Life. – I have pushed friends off sky platforms and watched them plummet towards the ground. 😀  I suspect if I tried to do something similar in real life it might be frowned upon by law enforcement. I am absolutely certain that if I drove on a RL highway the way I drive when I get in an SL vehicle I would have my licence taken away lol.
  6. Never have I ever created an ALT for secret activities, in Second Life. – I have done this. The secret alt wasn’t for any underhanded purposes, though, it’s just to give me the option to shop or go sightseeing in peace and quiet and not have anybody know I’m online and IM me. Otherwise the majority of my alts are known to my friends and are for permission tests and to serve as models if I want to take posed pics with more than one avatar.
  7. Never have I ever had a one night stand, in Second Life.– Never ever. Geez, I experience enough social anxiety holding a mundane conversation about how bad the lag is on a given day. All you folks who have all this lively interaction with each other are about 1000x more outgoing than I will ever be.
  8. Never have I ever been part of a roleplay community, in Second Life. – So far I’ve never tried to RP in SL. I like the idea of storytelling but the thought of getting started is intimidating.
  9. Never have I ever discovered a new fetish, because of Second Life. – No, I haven’t.
  10. Never have I ever done things in Second Life that I wouldn’t admit to my friends or family. – Nah, I’ve never done anything that I’d be ashamed to admit, but I’ve given up trying to sell my friends on the idea of joining SL because they either don’t understand what it is or think it’s kind of silly for a grown up to be so into playing (what they perceive to be) a video game, so I rarely mention it anymore.

So there I am. What have you never ever done?



Hair: Dura – Boys&Girls*48
Sunglasses: Yummy – Miami Heat Shades
Ears: Mandala – Fantasy Elf Ears
Body: Maitreya Lara
Dress: Neve  – Laced Geo 
Skin: League Erin

Hooray for mesh!

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Sep 122015

Recently one of my friends has been amused because I have a huge crush on my guy alt. She can’t giggle too much though, she fell for him too. I can’t help it. I made him way too cute, I have to log him in and admire him on a regular basis.

Now, I think I’ve made it worse on myself. I tried to resist getting the Slink Physique Male body for him. I tried, I really did. I was going to save money. I was going to budget. And besides, he’s usually dressed in tee shirts and jeans, and I told myself, “Hey, he doesn’t need a mesh body if you never actually see it.” Right?

Then I tried a demo and, well, so much for that budget.

Now I just stare at my screen and make little squeaky noises. All the times I heard men say they ran a female av because they just enjoyed looking at her more than they would a dude? Totally getting that now, I’m not sure I want to log my main in, it’s way too much fun to watch this guy walking around.

I really like the way this body is shaped. It smooths out all those odd chunky spots that plague the default body, and it’s a really nice average sized guy body type, rather than an unpleasantly overdone muscleman. The HUD is very similar to the one for the female body and is easy to work with. The body also has Omega applier support, (you do have to pick up the Omega activator HUD) and the hands and feet have been updated to include Omega compatibility also. When I picked up the skin applier for the Nivaro skin I typically keep him in I found that it applied the skin to body, hands and feet all at once, which is handy if you switch skin tones and don’t tend to save copies of your body parts for each skin you use.

The boxers he is wearing were included with the body, as well as a pair of stovepipe jeans and a basic tank, and all fit very nicely. I tried on a few of the mesh clothes in my inventory and found them to be a bit hit and miss so I think he’ll continue to spend most of his time in his default body; his normal wardrobe covers so much that it seems pointless to wear a mesh body and then alpha out everything but his neck and throat and forearms. Of course I remember thinking the same thing about my main’s Lara bod, and I realize I’ve been wearing it more often than not these days, so I’ll never say never.

Overall I’m really delighted with this body, and three cheers to Siddean Munro! Woot! Now I’m looking forward to seeing fitted clothes designed just for this so I can dress him up!

Okay, mostly I’m just looking forward to logging him in and swooning. That’s good too. 😀


other things he’s wearing:

Shoes: Phunk Lowtop Sneakers
Skin: Nivaro Cunov Summertone, Omega appliers available in the main store


How to Relax

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Aug 192015

Relaxation level: 100%

For the majority of my Second Life I have been extremely fortunate to be associated with Kannonji Zen Retreat, a beautiful little sim that holds daily meditation sits, occasionally hosts talks from RL Buddhist teachers, and is home to two live music venues. Over the years I watched with great joy as my late husband and his close friend, Kannonji’s founder, shifted prims around, reshaped the landscape, occasionally battled over some feature one of them wanted to add that the other kept returning, and did their best to make Kannonji a beautiful place to visit. When the current owners, whom I’m lucky to count as my best friends in Second Life, gave me a free hand to do any updating I wanted I was delighted.

Life’s a beach \o/

Much of the sim remains as lovely as ever, and I admit there is still a lot of reluctance on my part to delete anything that my husband did before he passed, but it was fun to add new little touches. In the past couple of weeks my offline life seemed determined to throw stress at me right and left, and SL has been a refuge. Coming in world and having the opportunity to create spaces where others can hopefully escape a little of the daily stress of their offline lives has just been wonderful. Landscaping has to be one of the best forms of relaxation I have ever found. It will always be at the top of my list of things I love to do in world.

Finding the quiet spaces

I wouldn’t begin to put my efforts in the same category as those of SL’s many well known, talented sim architects, but I’m still quite proud of my modest little spots. Creating a hidden beach here, a quiet little camping spot there… bliss. Hopefully others will stumble across these little spots and it will erase a little of the stress of RL for them as well. 🙂

Visit Kannonji Zen Retreat at Snowlion Mountain 

Moments in Time

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Jul 102015

It’s been rainy today. It seems fitting, because it’s been a melancholy day so far. Ten years ago on this day I was on my first date with my late husband. We’d talked online for a couple of weeks, but it was the first time we’d met in person, at a bookstore coffee shop. Every year we marked that day, either by going back to the bookstore, or stopping off for burritos at the site of our first dinner.

I’ve been going in world quite often in the past few weeks, I’m not sure why but I’ve felt a need to rejoin Second Life after keeping it at arms length for so long. For much of that time when I did log in I did so as an alt, wanting to distance myself a bit. Ravensong was tied so closely to NaturesZen, my husband’s av, that seeing her in world without him around was actually depressing and stressful. It was like going to our favorite places in real life alone. It just wasn’t the same, I missed having him with me.

Lately I’ve been logging in with Raven again and rediscovering my bond with her. I’m trying to be more social. I’ve been feeling driven to start taking pics again and remembering how much fun it is. I’ve also been logging in one of my hub’s alts simultaneously, I’m not sure why but just having his alt online is comforting. Maybe it makes me feel that my husband is still with me, even though his alt looks nothing like either my hub or his main. Maybe it’s just that with that other avatar there I can enjoy the illusion that I’m a little less alone in virtual space.

I was laughing with one of my friends the other day that I feel like I’m up to something because I’ve stolen my alt’s partner so I can enjoy cute cuddle poses. I have no idea if this is just a random distraction as I move through the second year of grieving, or if it’s helping in some way. I know there must be many, many people who’ve gone through similar things as me… other SLers who lost a partner who they shared both their real and virtual lives with. I often wonder what their journey is like, how they view the world now, how they move forward.

For now I think I’ll just go out for my first date anniversary burrito.


Contemplating this whilst visiting Leka.


Totally Immersed

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Jul 072015

He did appear to be quite immersed in the tour.

For the past day or two keeping up with the posts in the #immersivedrax tag on Twitter has  been fabulous! When Strawberry Singh gave us a FlatDraxtor meme challenge I had to take part. 😀  Here’s the problem though: where do you take a guy that is always up to date on the very best things that Second Life has to offer? It was quite a dilemma. In the end I thought I’d just give ImmersiveDrax a quick tour of my home platform.

Draxtor! Watch your step!

Of course one must never forget that sky platforms can be dangerous places, particularly if you are totally immersed. Always keep an eye on your immersed friends if they start to wander around. That first wrong step would be a doozy!

Don’t miss all the #immersiveDrax pics on Twitter. They are fantastic!