Hooray for mesh!

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Sep 122015

Recently one of my friends has been amused because I have a huge crush on my guy alt. She can’t giggle too much though, she fell for him too. I can’t help it. I made him way too cute, I have to log him in and admire him on a regular basis.

Now, I think I’ve made it worse on myself. I tried to resist getting the Slink Physique Male body for him. I tried, I really did. I was going to save money. I was going to budget. And besides, he’s usually dressed in tee shirts and jeans, and I told myself, “Hey, he doesn’t need a mesh body if you never actually see it.” Right?

Then I tried a demo and, well, so much for that budget.

Now I just stare at my screen and make little squeaky noises. All the times I heard men say they ran a female av because they just enjoyed looking at her more than they would a dude? Totally getting that now, I’m not sure I want to log my main in, it’s way too much fun to watch this guy walking around.

I really like the way this body is shaped. It smooths out all those odd chunky spots that plague the default body, and it’s a really nice average sized guy body type, rather than an unpleasantly overdone muscleman. The HUD is very similar to the one for the female body and is easy to work with. The body also has Omega applier support, (you do have to pick up the Omega activator HUD) and the hands and feet have been updated to include Omega compatibility also. When I picked up the skin applier for the Nivaro skin I typically keep him in I found that it applied the skin to body, hands and feet all at once, which is handy if you switch skin tones and don’t tend to save copies of your body parts for each skin you use.

The boxers he is wearing were included with the body, as well as a pair of stovepipe jeans and a basic tank, and all fit very nicely. I tried on a few of the mesh clothes in my inventory and found them to be a bit hit and miss so I think he’ll continue to spend most of his time in his default body; his normal wardrobe covers so much that it seems pointless to wear a mesh body and then alpha out everything but his neck and throat and forearms. Of course I remember thinking the same thing about my main’s Lara bod, and I realize I’ve been wearing it more often than not these days, so I’ll never say never.

Overall I’m really delighted with this body, and three cheers to Siddean Munro! Woot! Now I’m looking forward to seeing fitted clothes designed just for this so I can dress him up!

Okay, mostly I’m just looking forward to logging him in and swooning. That’s good too. 😀


other things he’s wearing:

Shoes: Phunk Lowtop Sneakers
Skin: Nivaro Cunov Summertone, Omega appliers available in the main store


How to Relax

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Aug 192015

Relaxation level: 100%

For the majority of my Second Life I have been extremely fortunate to be associated with Kannonji Zen Retreat, a beautiful little sim that holds daily meditation sits, occasionally hosts talks from RL Buddhist teachers, and is home to two live music venues. Over the years I watched with great joy as my late husband and his close friend, Kannonji’s founder, shifted prims around, reshaped the landscape, occasionally battled over some feature one of them wanted to add that the other kept returning, and did their best to make Kannonji a beautiful place to visit. When the current owners, whom I’m lucky to count as my best friends in Second Life, gave me a free hand to do any updating I wanted I was delighted.

Life’s a beach \o/

Much of the sim remains as lovely as ever, and I admit there is still a lot of reluctance on my part to delete anything that my husband did before he passed, but it was fun to add new little touches. In the past couple of weeks my offline life seemed determined to throw stress at me right and left, and SL has been a refuge. Coming in world and having the opportunity to create spaces where others can hopefully escape a little of the daily stress of their offline lives has just been wonderful. Landscaping has to be one of the best forms of relaxation I have ever found. It will always be at the top of my list of things I love to do in world.

Finding the quiet spaces

I wouldn’t begin to put my efforts in the same category as those of SL’s many well known, talented sim architects, but I’m still quite proud of my modest little spots. Creating a hidden beach here, a quiet little camping spot there… bliss. Hopefully others will stumble across these little spots and it will erase a little of the stress of RL for them as well. 🙂

Visit Kannonji Zen Retreat at Snowlion Mountain 

Moments in Time

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Jul 102015

It’s been rainy today. It seems fitting, because it’s been a melancholy day so far. Ten years ago on this day I was on my first date with my late husband. We’d talked online for a couple of weeks, but it was the first time we’d met in person, at a bookstore coffee shop. Every year we marked that day, either by going back to the bookstore, or stopping off for burritos at the site of our first dinner.

I’ve been going in world quite often in the past few weeks, I’m not sure why but I’ve felt a need to rejoin Second Life after keeping it at arms length for so long. For much of that time when I did log in I did so as an alt, wanting to distance myself a bit. Ravensong was tied so closely to NaturesZen, my husband’s av, that seeing her in world without him around was actually depressing and stressful. It was like going to our favorite places in real life alone. It just wasn’t the same, I missed having him with me.

Lately I’ve been logging in with Raven again and rediscovering my bond with her. I’m trying to be more social. I’ve been feeling driven to start taking pics again and remembering how much fun it is. I’ve also been logging in one of my hub’s alts simultaneously, I’m not sure why but just having his alt online is comforting. Maybe it makes me feel that my husband is still with me, even though his alt looks nothing like either my hub or his main. Maybe it’s just that with that other avatar there I can enjoy the illusion that I’m a little less alone in virtual space.

I was laughing with one of my friends the other day that I feel like I’m up to something because I’ve stolen my alt’s partner so I can enjoy cute cuddle poses. I have no idea if this is just a random distraction as I move through the second year of grieving, or if it’s helping in some way. I know there must be many, many people who’ve gone through similar things as me… other SLers who lost a partner who they shared both their real and virtual lives with. I often wonder what their journey is like, how they view the world now, how they move forward.

For now I think I’ll just go out for my first date anniversary burrito.


Contemplating this whilst visiting Leka.



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Jul 032015

Sometimes as you play with your pose adjusters you stumble across a scene, and you wonder, ‘what’s the backstory here?’

Her hair: Elikatira “Lena”
Her Dress: The Muses “Mellei”
Her skin: League “Erin”
His coat: ZED “Distressed Black Goth Leather Coat
His ears: Sinful Needs “Fae Elf Ears 4
His eyes: “FATEeyes v3.0″
His skin: Nivaro “Cunov springtone”
His beard: Unorthodox “Blitz Facial Hair” 
His hair: Truth (discontinued)

I found my muse, she was in the gazebo the whole time…

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Jun 222015

Night writer…

Where did the time go? It seems like I rezzed my little studio at Medici University only a few days ago, and now it’s near the end of the MU year. I wish I’d attended more events and made an attempt to interact so I could have met my talented classmates and perhaps made some new friends, but I was just a little too distracted by RL to visit SL very much. It’s still all good, and I’m glad I’ve tried to take part.

Even though I wasn’t in world very often, I did my best to log in now and then to visit the campus to see what others were creating. When everything was quiet I’d wander around and look for interactive things, as one does. 😀

Taking a break from writing to be fashionable on Paypaback Writer’s pose stand 😀

Most of the time I parked my avvie at my desk, and while SLme typed away on a virtual laptop, RLme  thought I’d work on my creative writing. I didn’t manage to take part in any of the programs on campus, yet just sitting in the little gazebo I found myself rediscovering my muse. I pulled out old stories, I rewrote, I explored new ideas, I lost track of time as I recaptured the joy I used to feel in creating something.

My little corner of the world

Even if it’s currently for my eyes only it has reminded me just how much I love making my own worlds and filling them with people.  As a source of creative inspiration I’d say MU has been a resounding success for me!

Thank you Izzy and Vanessa and all the amazing and talented folks who built such a wonderful place!

Yay, MU!

Jun 132015

Some days you just wake up with an image in your head and then, of course, you must do some serious shopping to find just the right things, and then you have to look around for just the right location and try out a thousand different atmosphere settings and then you wonder how six hours passed in the span of two or three minutes. It’s just the darndest thing.

In my first couple of years in SL I spent much of my time running around in attire that would have been well suited for a Renaissance faire, but with the rise of mesh I abandoned my fantasy wear for the contemporary casual look. I’d forgot how much fun it is to dress up.

I am now very happy. ^_^

And I am in love with my dress. <3



Politely crediting:

Her dress: Senzafine  “Caterina”
Her necklace: Maxi Gossamer – Alexa Black choker pearls
Her eyes: Ikon Horizon
Her skin: League Isla medium
Her hair: Truth Courtney (pre-mesh, but I see it’s still available in their discount room for 50L a pack)

His coat: The Muses “Dragon
His ears: Sinful Needs Fae Elf Ears 4
His eyes: FATEeyes v3.0
His skin: Nivaro Cunov springtone
His hair: Truth Elysium (heavily modded) I think this is long since discontinued.

Hands: Slink

Backdrop: Skye Neist Point

7 Random Thoughts, in No Particular Order

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May 072015

1. I miss SL Go. I wish I’d used it more often. But Bright Canopy sounds promising, especially when my insistence on cranking my graphics settings up as high as I can has been making my laptop cry.

2. Should I have really ordered that pizza tonight? I mean, really?

3. I really like the way mesh bodies look, but I still laugh every time I tp somewhere and find a whole bunch of mesh-bod wearing avatars who look like disembodied heads with a collection of nude body parts and stiff articles of clothing floating around them until everything finishes rezzing.

4. I need to make a list of sims I want to visit and start taking pics more often. WindWept was a good start! It’s a lovely, watery sim with lots of good places for photos, lots of places to sit and chat or cuddle with someone special, and a few fun hidden places to discover.

5. It was probably not the best of ideas to try to start a blog challenge when I’m stressed about job hunting and am having a hard time focusing on that.

6. I also need to make a list of real world places to go and start taking pics again. I really miss going out and snapping photos, and I know the primary reason that I stopped was because I miss my husband, he was my exploring partner and could always find cool things.

7. Who cares if the pizza was a bad diet choice! It was tasty. 😀


Visit WindWept!

Or find more from my trip at my Flickr 🙂